Marriages today are facing significant challenges, with many relationships ending in divorce within a short span of time—some within 2-5 months, others after 1-2 years, and some even after decades of being together, such as 10-15 years or even 30 years. This trend can be attributed to the wrong practices and societal norms that have been imposed on individuals since childhood, often without any logical or meaningful basis, or adopted unconsciously over time. Many people enter into marriage without truly understanding its essence, purpose, or the right time to commit to such a lifelong partnership. Even those who are educated may fail to apply critical thinking to their decisions, rendering them no different from the uneducated—a phenomenon that can be described as “educated illiteracy.” This lack of understanding and purpose in marriage often leads to severe consequences. Some individuals resort to extreme measures like attempting suicide due to marital conflicts, while others engage in extramarital affairs as a way to cope with dissatisfaction or emptiness in their relationships. These outcomes frequently stem from the absence of a clear or meaningful reason for getting married.

This is my philosophy, this is my perspective. Everyone’s can be different. Everyone’s thoughts are different, everyone’s palm lines are different, so everyone’s perspective will also be different.

Table

• What is the true meaning of Marriage, and what have we learned about it from this world and our family?
• Should You Get Married? The Pros, Cons, and How to Decide
• The truth behind arranged Marriages: Love expected, But why are they really getting married?
• True Meaning of Love is not from others it is from your self love
• The dangerous myth of the ‘Right Age’ to Marry—Are you really ready
• Perception, Conditioning of brain by Society and Lack Of Wisdom are Causes of Disasters
• Why do people want you to marry, When even they are also suffering
• Difference Between Wise People & Worldly People
• Is Marriage Life’s Only Goal in india? Or Outdated Notion
• Marriage or Monopoly? The Industries That Control India’s Wedding Obsession

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What is the true meaning of Marriage, and what have we learned about it from this world and our family?

Here, I see marriage as something to be considered later, and even before that there is a word called “relation,” which is the origin of the word “relate.”

How is you relate with yourself, with money, and similarly with others? When you start fully relating to someone, it is called a “relation.” Most people don’t even know the true meaning of this word. Everyone is just chasing behind the word “marriage,” which is merely a name given by this world as proof that you now belong to each other. In my view, “relation” is first thing and most important than “marriage.”

You have given the name “marriage” to a social tradition where a boy and a girl come together, take seven rounds, and then start living together. If they have followed all religious rituals and are living together in a valid, lawful manner, you call it marriage. According to you, this is the definition of marriage according to you—what you have learned from your parents and society—that if a man and woman are living together while following social and religious rules, you consider them married.

If marriage didn’t even exist,then what would you do? It’s just a man-made social tradition that we blindly follow today without even thinking or understanding.

Should You Get Married? The Pros, Cons, and How to Decide

The measure of doing or not doing anything is this:

To lead to liberation if you’re in bound?

To joy if you’re in pain?

To clarity if you’re in illusion?

This is the aim of life—it’s a simple truth. There’s no argument against it.

Meaning is very important in life; nothing else is as crucial. Do only what leads you toward freedom or toward light. If one finds work that gives their life purpose, that’s excellent Whether you marry or not in between is your decision—do it only if it brings you towards of growth but 99 out of 100 people don’t have any higher goal they are living for—in such cases, they should get married. If they don’t, they will create a lot of unrest within themselves. They will always carry this regret, this dissatisfaction, thinking, ‘The rest of the world has achieved something special, but we were left behind.

If you find someone you love and with whom you feel you can fulfill your life’s purpose, then you should definitely get married. However, out of 100 couples, you’ll find that 95 have neither mental growth, nor physical growth, nor financial growth. This is because, in these couples, either one or both partners have no purpose or direction in life.

There are many people who did not marry and later deeply regretted it—these are the ones who had nothing significant to do in life.

On the other hand, there are also many who never married yet lives lives a thousand times better than those tied to marriage and family. They are contributing to the world—these are the people who have so much to do, enjoying every moment, adding value to their own lives and the lives of others.

The truth behind arranged Marriages: Love expected, But why are they really getting married?

Anyone who gets into an marriage today isn’t doing it for love —yet they still expect love in return. Some marry for dowry, some for boy or girl with government job, some for fear of their parents, some to continue their lineage, some to take care of their parents, some for household help, some for money, some for according their job and some just for sex. this is the actual reality of this generation and no one else has the courage to accept it either, which is why they keep complaining their whole lives, nurture diseases, and commit disgusting acts like extra-marital affairs.

This so-called arranged marriage is one of the most vulgar practices in India. People go to see the girl, go to see the boy, and sometimes even line up girls like a special inspection parade—checking their height, how they look from the side, and other superficial things.

When you go to see a potential match, why not just talk to each other honestly?

Instead, you hide your true intentions. Everyone knows what kind of gaze you’re giving each other, but no one speaks the truth. If you start the relationship with such hypocrisy, how can your married life ever be happy?

Just admit it—most people searching for marriage partners in these gatherings are actually just looking for a desirable body. Once you accept this truth, the fire of self-realization will ignite within you, and you’ll desperately start seeking true love instead.

True Meaning of Love is not from others it is from your self love

One who truly understands love first loves himself—only then can he love others. A person incapable of loving himself can never love another. A heart that loves itself won’t tolerate its own suffering for long.

Let me be clear: I have complete empathy for those who are oppressed, exploited, and thus trapped in poverty. But understand this—in today’s world, if someone remains economically deprived, it’s not solely because society denied them opportunities. Often, the reason lies within: something in that person refuses to let them rise. There’s a void of self-love. That individual doesn’t even desire their own well-being.

If you truly wish for your own good, you might start in dire circumstances—but it’s impossible to remain there after 5–6 years. A person who doesn’t want better for themselves will never want better for their wife or children. Someone cruel to themselves will inevitably be cruel to their family.

They won’t even think: ‘If my own life is so broken, why should I marry? Why bring four children into this?’ That’s true cruelty. If you look deeply, bringing a life into this world without preparation is a greater crime than taking one away—but we fail to grasp this. Are you truly fit to give life—physically, mentally, financially, intellectually, spiritually? No. Yet we procreate mindlessly, like animals.”

Heart or family’s choice? Decoding love marriage & arranged marriage.

If we talk about the 21st century, the only difference between love marriage and arranged marriage is that in love marriage, people marry after seeing the “heart” (emotions), and in arranged marriage, they marry after seeing the “body or face” (appearance). The truth might sound harsh, but it is what it is. I’m not saying that other things don’t matter—other things are also important to consider. But first, it’s essential to look at a person’s heart (intentions) or mindset. This is only possible when you have known someone for a long time, which usually happens in love marriages. If you want an arranged marriage, you should still give at least two years to understand each other properly before making the decision to marry.

Tell me that how can you claim to know someone’s heart after just 2 or 3 meetings?

In a hostel, there is a shared room where, even after staying for a day or two, you are given the option to decide whether you want to continue staying with the same person or not. Although the sharing room is very small, it has a partition to maintain some privacy. It’s just a matter of 2-4 years, yet there is so much strictness about who you share the room with—who you are going to live with.

Now, if in your life, a stranger comes and you are being told that this person will stay with you for the rest of your life, sleep in your bed, and merge into your body to sleep—would you be crazy, or am I crazy?

I can’t even tolerate this thought in my imagination.

It’s a very strange and abnormal thing, yet it seems normal to you only because everyone else is doing it. Just for that reason, you accept it as normal. My friend, you can’t make deep friendships so easily. Even if you do manage to form one, friends often leave after six months, a year, or two years. So how can you bind yourself to someone for an entire lifetime?

Let me tell you the truth—you can never fully understand another person. It takes years just to know them halfway. And yet, what kind of ‘love’ are you even talking about?

You look at their face, their body, then after a few days, their house—and suddenly declare you’re marrying for love?

Who are you trying to fool?

The dangerous myth of the ‘Right Age’ to Marry—Are you really ready?

Don’t marry in recklessness. Don’t wed just to ruin each other’s lives. There’s no ‘right age’ for marriage—24, 25, 27, 28… What magic happens at these ages that you’ll suddenly think to choose a life partner correctly?

You don’t even know how to pick the right friends. You can’t evaluate a job properly. You don’t understand the meaning of health. You’ve never learned what true relationship. Your life has no purpose—so how will you choose the right husband or wife?

You made the decision of marriage from the lowest level of your Consciousness. When your awareness itself is so underdeveloped, how can your decision possibly be good?

All your mistakes, all your decisions—they were made in ignorance, yet you’re in such a hurry! I’m only saying this—first raise the level of your consciousness, then marry. Do it with joy, with understanding.

So many parents—whether their child is a boy or a girl, but especially girls—start talking about marriage as soon as they pass 12th grade. Tell me, are you parents or their enemies? What are you? If you’re pushing an 18-year-old girl into marriage—or even a 21-year-old—this is violence, this is oppression! She’s still so young. She hasn’t seen the world yet. She has no wisdom, no skills, no experience. Instead of giving her knowledge, you’re burdening her with pregnancy. What could be more cruel than this? At an age when she should be learning, gaining experience, exploring the world, reading books—at that very age, she’ll be confined to motherhood. What could be more violent than this? She’s still a child herself, and you’re telling her to raise children? If this isn’t oppression, then what is?

Perception, Conditioning of brain by Society and Lack Of Wisdom are Causes of Disasters

Here, I want to talk about couples who are (or were) in a loving relationship but have had some misunderstandings, or whose relationship isn’t going well right now. I’m not referring to couples where one person has a narcissistic personality – those are different. This is for those who want to learn about relationships to strengthen and improve their own bond. There so are many relationship coaches available, you can consult from them.

Stand tall in your truth. Stay real – say it together I guarantee we won’t break this bond from my side. But if you choose the path of dishonesty, be warned: I can punish. I can speak hard truths. I can do what needs to be done. Yet I give you this absolute assurance – I will never abandon you. This, to me, is the foundation of a healthy relationship: If you make a commitment, have the courage to honor it.

If you truly know what you’re doing, your love won’t stop for anyone—it only stops when it was never real to begin with.

You say you can’t marry the one you love, and your parents tell you to marry someone else. But if it were real love, how could you even think of loving one person and marrying another? That’s the real adultery—when your heart belongs to one, but your life is forced to another. That’s the true “extramarital” existence.

If you’ve really loved someone, then why don’t you marry them?

Why do people want you to marry, When even they are also suffering

Why does someone want to arrange someone else’s marriage?

Why does someone pressure another person to get married?

Someone may want to arrange another person’s marriage because they themselves got married under someone else’s pressure. Since they did not choose their own life partner, their heart carries that pain, and now they don’t want others to live their lives according to their own will.

Some people are truly spineless—they get married just because of society’s pressure, their parents’ demands, or the fear of relatives and friends.

I ask those men and women: Would you really want someone to stay with you just because they’re afraid of society’s judgment?

They don’t have higher purpose of life, Here, according to them marriage becomes the sole ultimate purpose of life. They don’t give importance to their careers, nor do they prioritize their health – they only give importance to marriage.

Society Won’t Guide You on Growth, Health, or Finances—But It Will Obsess Over Your Marriage” No one advises you on how to grow in life, No one teaches you how to live healthily, No one discusses financial independence or building meaningful relationships. Instead, society rushes to talk about marriage—piling on pressure until it feels like nothing else matters. Even parents: They may not invest in their child’s career, They may ignore their education, But they’ll pour money—even take loans—into a wedding. Why? Because mothers and fathers believe their life’s purpose is just to “get their children married.” And in India? Daughters are treated as burdens—a financial liability to be “handed over.”

Look around: You’ll see people whose own lives are shattered like Married couples trapped in misery,

Those cheating on their partners,

Spouses who secretly hate each other (why did they even marry?),

Singles who never married yet aggressively push marriage onto others,

Divorced people offering marital advice,

those planning second weddings without resolving their first failed marriage.

Yet these very people— Lost, conflicted, and unhappy— Become society’s self-appointed guardians of “marriage.” It’s heartbreaking. It’s hypocritical.

Difference Between Wise People & Worldly People

For a worldly person, the biggest concern is whether a girl is “getting too old” for marriage. They don’t realize they are the ones who’ve failed to grow—still stuck in childish thinking, obsessing over trivial matters like age. To them, even petty things seem massive because their mindset is small.

But for a spiritual seeker, these things mean nothing. The real questions in life are:

• Why were you born?
• Are you truly understanding life?
• Even at 90, are you still learning?

The real issues are:

• Are you living meaningfully?
• Are you falling sick by 30 due to poor habits?
• At 70, are you still pursuing passions or learning something new?

That’s what truly matters—not some shallow worry about “aging.”

I ask married people: Do you know the meaning of the mantras chanted during your wedding? If not, then how can you say you are married?

When you don’t even know what the priest said, how can you be sure your marriage took place?

This has been the religious life of India. We lack knowledge, and we don’t even believe in seeking it. For us, blindly following the world’s customs, rituals, and traditions is enough.

Is Marriage Life’s Only Goal in india? Or Outdated Notion

People may or may not accomplish anything in life, but parents always make sure to do one thing—get their sons and daughters married. They live just for this, breathe just for this. The amount an average person spends on weddings—if they had saved that money and instead invested it in their children’s mental or physical development (especially girls), their future would have been far brighter. But no, they blow it all on weddings.

And I also want to ask those young men and women who, as soon as they land a job, take out loans to splurge lakhs on weddings: Had they spent even half that amount learning about relationships, parenting, or emotional maturity, not only would their married lives improve, but their future generations would truly be educated in the real sense.”

No decent person in this world can respect someone just because they had an expensive wedding. In fact, any sensible person who sees you wasting money extravagantly on a wedding will look down on you. This is not even a valid argument—that having a lavish wedding will benefit you in any way. It’s just a distraction, a mindset that has corrupted the people of India. A man lives only for weddings and dies only for weddings.

Half the expenses go into these flashy processions, farewells, and fake emotional dramas. How will such a nation progress? In a house where a girl is born, the father starts saving money—not for the future of the country, not for building better infrastructure, colleges, or hospitals, not even to educate his daughter properly (by ‘proper education,’ I mean purposeful learning or meaningful work). Instead, he saves all that money just to book a banquet hall and serve rich dishes like Shahi Paneer and Rasgulla to the guests.

Now, there will be some people here who’ll say, ‘A wedding happens only once in a lifetime, so why not spend on it?’ To them, I say: First, wake up from your delusion! Who told you a wedding happens only once? How much truth is there in this claim? This is either your conditioned perception, or you’re ignorant of reality—or worse, you refuse to accept it.

There’s no fixed count for weddings. If your marriage fails, it can happen multiple times. Right? And if we look at different religions, in the Muslim community, one can even have multiple marriages and if you truly believe that ‘a wedding happens only once,’ then why don’t you invest in developing your own awareness?

If you are so conscious about marriage, then why don’t you learn the real meaning of relationships? Why not spend at least some of years understanding and testing a person before deciding to marry? Instead, you rush into weddings like fools And then,this is the same people who get divorced just a few years after marriage!

Marriage or Monopoly? The Industries That Control India’s Wedding Obsession

Marriage Has Been Reduced to a Ritual – And Some People Have Made It Their Business” For generations, society has conditioned us to treat marriage as an unavoidable ritual. There are those who claim that “arranging weddings is their job,” and people blindly accept it. But has anyone ever stopped to question why?

Marriage has become a business—a centuries-old industry. That’s why you’ll find banquet halls at every corner, but rarely a library, a hospital, a sports club, or an open playground. Even in small towns across India, you’ll often find no libraries, no gyms, no sports clubs, no stadiums—but rows of banquet halls. This reflects the tragic state of our priorities and the mentality of the people here. Schools are used for wedding receptions; their grounds become parking for wedding guests. Just think about it—a town with no libraries, no sports facilities, no basic infrastructure, yet packed with banquet halls!”

People have fallen so low in their pursuit of money that they no longer see beyond this exploitation. Society has brainwashed us so deeply that we can’t even imagine marriage outside this commercialized setup. Today, court marriage is the simplest, most affordable way to get married—yet less than 10% of people choose it. Why? Because the moment someone says “marriage,” our minds are programmed to think of banquet halls, fireworks, expensive clothes, pre-wedding shoots, honeymoons, overpriced photography, and unhealthy, nutritionless food—but not the true meaning of love, commitment, and companionship.

Has society really become this shallow in its understanding of marriage?